Disciplining your child is one of the many responsibilities that come with being a parent. Discipline is guiding your child on how to behave as well as how not to behave.
Disciplining a five -year- old takes time and requires one to be patient and consistent. Being warm and loving towards your child makes discipline work well.
What’s the typical behavior of a five -year -old?
At this age, your child will want to do things for themselves leading to testing out new behaviors just to see your reaction. Children at this age should be improving in terms of controlling their emotions and behaviors but parents still need to put in more work in this area.
Five-year-olds have a basic understanding of acceptable behavior and what is not. They are mature enough to follow rules and frequently strive to please adults. They have a hard time making good choices as a result of not being able to comprehend how grown-ups reason.
The transition from preschool to kindergarten may cause your child to experience separation anxiety because of being separated from their teachers and friends at preschool.
Common behavior problems in 5-year-olds
Five-year-olds tend to whine when you say no to something in attempts to pressurize you into changing your mind. Keep in mind that if they manage to make you give in to their whining, they are likely to undermine your authority.
Lying is a common behavior in 5-year-olds. They tell lies so as to get out of trouble. They make up stories in attempts to exercise their imagination.
Five-year-olds use baby talk in attempts to seek attention. Also, baby talk can be a sign of stress or anxiety. For instance, a child may revert to baby talk because they are anxious about transitioning from preschool to kindergarten.
Most children at the age of five have a little control when it comes to throwing tantrums but they sometimes behave aggressively by kicking and hitting because their impulse control is still developing.
What are the causes of behavioral problems in a five-year-old?
Wanting to be perfect at everything they do and failing to do so can bring out behavioral problems in a five-year-old. Temper tantrums can arise from this despair. Some children can respond rudely when asked to do something because they want to be independent.
Not being able to do what they want since their motor skills are still developing may result in frustration filled behavior in kids at this age.
Five-year-olds experience difficulties transitioning from preschool to life at kindergarten. This may bring about anxiety as a result of being separated from their friends and teachers at preschool.
Deciding on a discipline strategy
Choosing an approach to discipline a five-year-old is about setting regulations and repercussions for your child’s behavior while also inspiring good behavior with rewards and praise Inadequate discipline may leave kids feeling uncertain and parents taxed out.
Excessive negative discipline causes children to behave well but out of fear. As a parent of a five-year-old, your approach to discipline should be tailored towards factors like your child’s personality and your parenting methods.
What are the discipline approaches that work on five-year-olds?
Successful discipline should incorporate negative repercussions that discourage the repetition of bad behavior and the positive outcome that inspires your child to behave well. Strategies that are effective when disciplining five-year-olds are as follows.
Create a routine. A good routine goes a long way when it comes to managing the behavior of your five-year-old. Overloading your child with tasks could overwhelm him and make him cranky. Not getting proper sleep could affect his behavior negatively as a result of not getting enough rest. Also allow your five-year-old to make choices because this gives him a sense of control and keeps the tantrums at bay.
Commend good behavior. Praise your five-year-old for good behavior and this will encourage him or her to behave well. Let your child know that you like his or her behavior when they behave well and this will definitely increase the likelihood of good behavior in the future. For instance, Tyrone I like the way you put away your toys after playtime, thank you. Good job.
Withdraw privileges. When your five-year-old does not listen when asked to stop kicking his or her siblings because he or she does not want to share, as a parent you should try taking away privileges like television time or a favorite game. Make sure-your-child understands why they are losing a privilege for this strategy to work.
Communication is vital. You can have a special place in the house where you and your five-year-old get to talk. Let this special place be a safe space where your child is allowed to tell you anything he or she wants without being judged.
Issue time-out. Put your five-year-old on time out when he or she breaks major rules such as physical violence. As a parent, you can have your child serve time-out in a room or at some quiet place.
Exercise patience. Rome was not built in a day, meaning your five-year-old will not become a perfect child overnight. He or she will misbehave from time to time since they are struggling with feelings and rationale. Keep on telling your child that misbehaving is bad and he or she will eventually get it.
Be a good example. Showing your five-year-old how you expect him to behave goes a long way in helping your child learn acceptable behavior. For example, if you want your child to speak softly, then don’t shout at him or her.
What works for one child may not work for another. As a parent, you need to choose the strategy that works best when it comes down to disciplining your five-year-old. An approach that worked for older siblings may not be effective on the child in question.
Most parents lose their cool when their five-year-olds misbehave. Spanking and yelling at your child is by far not the way to go about disciplining him or her. Spanking sends a message that it is acceptable to beat someone when you are annoyed. It can also hurt your child physically. Yelling on the other hand can cause emotional pain and instills fear.